Well, I haven't posted in around 7 months, but I MIGHT get back into this.
I'll start with a new entry-- Humans and Hypocrisy
We as humans are mortal as we all know; thus, prone to mistake and imperfection. But, after all the people I've met, heard, seen, and interacted with, there is one trait that runs very strong in humans: hypocrisy. We say one thing, then do the exact opposite. Thus the saying, "Do as I say, not as I do." I will be the first to admit that I am a huge hypocrite. For this whole blog I wrote about dating, boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, and letting the Lord do the footwork on those issues. Can anyone guess what I did that makes me a hypocrite? That's right, I got involved with someone of the opposite sex. Not sexually or physically for that matter, but emotionally. We never once kissed, but we did let three fatal words slip out ( I trust I don't need to say them). This person could have been a great mentor for me, as she is beyond me spiritually; but I went and got things started on the wrong track, and now we are disconnected forever. I threw away a powerful sister in Christ for my selfish, mortal, HYPOCRITICAL feelings. And that's all they were--feelings. Nothing more. And it certainly was nothing like what is described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. If it was, we would still be together. But, as I preached in previous entries, that would be wrong.
Now then, I'm going to review for my sake, and the readers'-- even if we could get married now, what would be the point? I don't have a home of my own, nor do I have the financial means to support a wife. I am not mature enough emotionally, nor spiritually. And, I am only 16. So! What is the logic in my getting involved with a young lady right now? 000.0--none what so ever. Yet, I did. Why? I let myself see what I wanted to see: a mature Christian young lady that believed the same way I did, and one who eventually returned the feeling I had for her. --Moral of this story; just because they're Christian, believe the same way you do, and seem to be the one God has set aside for you, DON'T SACRIFICE WHAT YOU HAVE FOR SOMETHING THAT ISN'T EVEN A GUARANTY!!! I honesty believed that this young lady (who will remain nameless) was the one God had picked out for me. And she may be for all I know; but certainly not now. And I'll give you another example of why teen relationships are a negative thing. Ready? If this young lady is in fact the one God has for me, getting involved with her again in the future will be soooo much harder now that we've already been together, and had bad results. Let's use a fictitious example. If Billy meets Madison at age 16, gets involved, and Madison does something that is taken the wrong way that results in a break up, what will the future be like when he meets her again? Will there be memories of that break up? Memories of hurt feelings? Memories of how things ended then? OF COURSE THERE WILL BE!!! And on the flip side on this; if Madison wasn't the one for Billy, and Billy met his future wife Kate and married her, what will he think about if he meets Madison again? IMPURE THOUGHTS. Even if he's not attracted to Madison, he will remember kissing her, hugging her, and saying things to her. Yet here he is married to Kate. Girls, how would you feel if your husband ran into an old girlfriend and started chatting. Same thing for you guy readers. The simplest solution--DON'T DATE WHEN YOU'RE TOO YOUNG IN THE FIRST PLACE! All you will get out of it is grief and regret in the long run.
These are just things to think on.
Please leave your thoughts in the comment box! I look forward to reading them.
Wow, great post! That's crazy, I was just thinking of this same topic today! (I am working on some articles myself.) I heard of some funny story once (well, in a way, sad) of this guy who bought his wife all these flowers and presents for her birthday, but it turned out it he was remembering his ex-girlfriend's birthday instead of her's. Relationships you put yourself into prematurely can have an impact on you for a long time. Haha (Even in simple things like that.)
ReplyDeleteI know of some people in this situation currently, and I have been imagining myself in it a lot recently. Don't feel too badly, because sometimes God challenges us and gives us those sorts of experiences to learn from. And honestly, sometimes I feel left out cause I am the only girl in the world that doesn't have a guy, or even ever been to a dance, or anything, and I get a lot of pressure from other people. (One guy in particular.) But ultimately I am reminded that I'm only 16 right now, and it would be utterly ridiculous to get attached to anybody at this season in my life. I don't need that right now. A friendship with someone of the opposite sex is different than a romantic relationship, and it's so hard to not cross that boundary line. I just recently have to be reminded that God never puts a challenge in front of us that we cannot overcome.
Remember, the devil will always tempt us at our weakest points. (Or even our strengths, tempting us to use our gifts and talents in the wrong ways). It's not a mystery as to why this is hard for a lot of people that try to have a biblical approach to relationships, it's because it's the right thing. If we were on the wrong side, it'd be so easy. Haha
This is what I wrote one time (it's kinda dramatic, so beware, haha):
"If we never have a battle, we can never have a victory! If we never taste the bitterness of defeat once, we'll never treasure the sweetness of overcoming struggles with victory. Don't you see that God intended us to fight and win? But we must first experience the pain and loss of losing something. We have lost something in this fallen world, but one day we will be made whole and perfect again. We have a piece of this in Jesus, our true redemption. Cling to it, because it's all we've got at this moment."
Again, thanks for the post, it was thought provoking!
God bless,
~Rachel