What would we consider "Conservative dating"? Well, according to our knowledge of the Bible, marriages weren't picked or arranged by the individual (most of the time). Marriages were arranged by the parents of each individual, thus, "Betrothal". Now, you aren't going to find many people that were betrothed by their parents in this day in age. However, if you look at the divorce rate of the Bible, and the rate of today, you will see an obvious difference. Now, I'm not saying that when you grow up you should immediately betroth your child, but you should definately have control of the situation. If the parent doesn't have control, there are bound to be problems. For example, why do you think that we have so much pre-marital sex in today's world? Why do we have so many husbands that can't forget about that one girlfriend from high school? It's because we all play "The Dating Game". Dating isn't an evil thing, when handled in the right way. But the key flaw in most parent's judgement in today's society is that they give their child too much freedom on the issue of dating.
When you were eight years old, was your mind ready for high school algebra? Of course not. That's because your mind wasn't mature enough. In the same way, during your teen years you are not emotionally mature enough to have a romantic relationship with some one of the opposite gender. How do we know this? If I were to have four girlfriends during my teen years, and broke up with all of them, what did I accomplish? I accomplished a bad decision, and proved bad judgement. Because that person wasn't the one that God had planned for me, but I wasn't mature enough to tell. And once more, when you break up with that girlfriend/boyfriend, one of you will feel pain if not both. But most of all, both of you will be damaged.
Our emotions might very well be the most amazing gift God has given us, but it's also the hardest to control. When a couple gets married, and they begin to spend more time with each other, their hearts begin to bond. Their emotions and desires become matched. This happens when your heart bonds with your spouse. But, in the same way, it can happen between boyfriends and girlfriends. When they break up and go their separate ways, the hearts that were trying to bond and become one with the other's are torn apart. When that happens it hurts you like no other pain. You feel betrayed, unloved, rejected, and maybe even used. This pain should never happen in the first place, and it wouldn't, if we followed the concept of "Courtship". (continued in "Courtship")
When you were eight years old, was your mind ready for high school algebra? Of course not. That's because your mind wasn't mature enough. In the same way, during your teen years you are not emotionally mature enough to have a romantic relationship with some one of the opposite gender. How do we know this? If I were to have four girlfriends during my teen years, and broke up with all of them, what did I accomplish? I accomplished a bad decision, and proved bad judgement. Because that person wasn't the one that God had planned for me, but I wasn't mature enough to tell. And once more, when you break up with that girlfriend/boyfriend, one of you will feel pain if not both. But most of all, both of you will be damaged.
Our emotions might very well be the most amazing gift God has given us, but it's also the hardest to control. When a couple gets married, and they begin to spend more time with each other, their hearts begin to bond. Their emotions and desires become matched. This happens when your heart bonds with your spouse. But, in the same way, it can happen between boyfriends and girlfriends. When they break up and go their separate ways, the hearts that were trying to bond and become one with the other's are torn apart. When that happens it hurts you like no other pain. You feel betrayed, unloved, rejected, and maybe even used. This pain should never happen in the first place, and it wouldn't, if we followed the concept of "Courtship". (continued in "Courtship")
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